Part 2:
Once you’ve met people you seem click with, ask them to hang out and do something outside of the situation you met them in. You can meet all the people you want, and they can think you’re great, but if you don’t take any actions to do something with them in the future, then you won’t form many new relationships. People will stay as the guy you talk to in class, or the girl you chat to at work in the break room.
If you’re on the shyer side, It might be hard to invite people out. It is a little scary at first, and there is some risk of rejection, it’s fairly easy to get used to. It’s not nearly as bad as asking someone out on a date, for example.
Depending on how you met them, you may invite someone to hang out fairly quickly or wait a few weeks. You may be totally comfortable asking them to hang out again right away. On the other hand, if you seem to mesh with someone at your job, but can only have short conversations with them here and there, it may be a month before you feel ready to invite them out.
Find a common ground , Maybe you both like NBA or have a common hobby, maybe you both fish or or like to target practice. Find the reason then set a time to go and spend time. That builds a real relationship. Everybody is looking for good friends. you can be that friend.
Have a basic grasp of how to make plans
To hang out with someone you’ve got to plan it. Sometimes the process is straightforward. You ask them if they want do something, they agree, and you set a time and place. At other times trying to nail down a plan can be tedious and unpredictable, especially when more than one other person is involved. It helps to accept that this is just an area where there’s always going to be an amount of uncertainty, and you can’t control everything.
Do your best to accept every invitation
Of course, making your own plans is important, but if someone asks you to hang out, then that’s even better. If someone invites you to do something, then you should go. Why turn down a free chance to get out there with people?
If you’re more of a shy or solitary person it’s easy to mull over the invitation and rationalize that it won’t be that fun and that you don’t want to go. Ignore those thoughts and go anyway. You never can be sure how fun something will be until you show up and see how it is for yourself.
Another thing to consider is that many people will stop inviting someone out to things if they decline too often. They may have nothing against the person, but the next time they’re planning an event will think, “Paul never comes out when I ask him, so no point in letting him know this time really.”
Be a good friend and you will have good friends. and when good friends need help,,, Be the light of God in their lives
Ken Gaub
Ken Gaub on Being A Witness 